Thursday, October 4, 2018

Why Read "Reflections"?

"Reflections" is an inspiring spiritual book rather than a religious one. It presents a collection of essays, poems, and talks designed to help anybody find a new source of faith or strengthen the faith you might currently possess.

"Reflections" will make you smile, warm your heart, soothe your soul, and provide practical tips on how to heal or overcome any significant challenge in your life.

For example, author Gary Eby (retired social worker, mental health counselor, and addiction therapist), describes how he healed from skin cancer and other painful adversities. His wife and co-author Susan Eby (interfaith, New Thought ministerial candidate at Emerson Theological Institute), shares her amazing healing from Dissociative Disorder and incredible child abuse. Both authors take you on a powerful journey within to help you feel the presence of all that is sacred, divine, and holy.

Most importantly, reading "Reflections" can also help you discover your life purpose and calling. Put Love-into-Action today. Join the movement to create a better, healthier, more compassionate world.

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Wednesday, July 4, 2018

A New Way


My wife and I are sitting at the white patio table under the green umbrella at the Riverside Restaurant in Grants Pass, Oregon. We are at the bottom of a three level veranda facing the Rogue River.

The Rogue is one of our few nationally protected wild rivers. I can hear the gurgling  flow of the current rapidly moving down stream. The warm sun today hits the rippling water with thousands of light refractions that gleam like tiny, twinkling stars.

Needless to say, we are relaxed; and enjoying our peaceful surroundings accompanied by bird songs and pine tree fragrances. I look across the eighty feet span of this amazing water wonder. There are bluish-green mountain tops looming down stream, and a huge, graceful Osprey circling above us.

All of a sudden, the raptor folds in its wings, dive-bombs into the river in front of us, like a gifted dancer nailing a contorted pose. Then the Osprey victoriously explodes out of the water, flying into the blue sky with a silver fish in its beak. Oh my, I have never witnessed such a raw, glorious, inspiring sight.

While waiting to place our order, my mind flashes back to a similar, awesome and equally inspiring human experience that occurred several nights ago at our local Unity Church. I facilitate a support group there on Thursday evenings that we call Positive Life Changes.

We are sitting on the wood and aluminum church chairs arranged in a circle. I am in the middle of the group with Kathy, Fred, Tom, and Shawn on the left half of the circle; and Doris, Anne, and Fred on my right.

Fred, (who is 85-years-old, bent over from back problems, with a bald head, white mustache, and a pervasive twinkle in his eye) hands off the Mission Statement sheet to Shawn, our newest member.

She reads the three pathways to emotional recovery, beginning with, “#1. We will practice ways to limit and control negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.”

Shawn, (in her early 40’s, a single mom, with page-boy styled brunette hair) passes the sheet back to me.

I further explain, “There are eight actual steps to positive change, but first we will begin our discussion with the word of the day entitled ‘A New Way’.”

Each member eagerly took turns explaining how to embrace a new way of living despite the inevitable setbacks, challenges, and life stressors that appear to block our progress at times.

Fred delighted in describing his “kick-the-bucket” list: “I made a commitment to take note of all the things that have displeased my wife, and I will try to do better.” In the last year he has many physical challenges that have included one heart attack, crippling back pain, and two strokes.

Kathy, (37, very slender, wearing her brown hair in a pony tail) proudly explained that she is in recovery from her alcoholism after getting out of prison recently for multiple DUI convictions. She went on to attest, “My new way is moving into a women’s half-way house in town, which will support my recovery, and help me get a fresh start on life again.”

Doris, (short, with reddish-brown hair, in her late 40’s) has been married and divorced three times. She is living with her elderly mother and her alcoholic brother. She shyly shared, “My new goal is to change my life by going back to college and majoring in career development.”

Tom, (47, brain-injured, with Schizophrenia, wearing a light pencil thin beard on his jaw line) is applying of Social Security Disability. He softly described his new interest in writing poetry, and he wisely pointed out to the group, “A new way suggests a willingness to be more open to positive thoughts, feelings, and actions.”

Anne, (53, short blond hair, speaks with an Irish accent) came as a guest of Kathy’s. She related to Tom her ambivalence about being on Social Security Disability. With passion in her eyes she stated, “My new way is to look for part-time work because I am not crippled enough to stay at home all day.”

Pete, (62, fully bearded, grey haired, and a combat Vietnam veteran) is going through a terrible divorce. He painfully described his grief over his separation from his wife of fourteen years due to her unmanageable Bipolar Disorder and alcoholism. 

Tearfully he stated, “How do you move forward to embrace a new life when negative thoughts and feelings keep taking you back to the old pain and suffering?”  

I took this opportunity to recommend my stop and think process to positive change.

When we are faced with hardships, adversity, or triggers to engage in self-defeating behavior (I call our dark secrets), I suggest we try the following emotional recovery system:

#1. Take a deep breath by inhaling for three seconds, and slowly exhale for six or more. This will slow down the temptation to stress-out or impulsively dance with negativity.

#2. Practice the skill of positive self-talk. For example, repeat affirmations like, “I refuse to beat myself up with things I can’t change.” Or, “I deserve to have a better life today.”

#3. Most importantly, when stuck and unable to see a new way, pause, and reach out for help to a positive person.

Pete graciously thanked me, smiled, and exclaimed, “Sounds good Gary, but where do I find positive people to talk with?”

I hesitated, and said, “Look around Pete, all the positive people you need are in this group today.”

We then laughed, smiled, and mysteriously connected in a special way: as majestic and uplifting as the Osprey who in full view dove into the water, and flew back into the blue sky victorious…

Startled from my muse by the waitress, we ordered from the menu. I look again at the mighty Rogue, and recount more of my experiences about the support group to my wife Susan.


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Thursday, April 26, 2018

Surrender


As we go through life we face many painful issues inside of us, and significant challenges all around us. Do you struggle with letting go of such difficulties? I have been there too.

I am a retired social worker, mental health counselor, addiction therapist and author of two self-help books. My wife Susan, is the co-author of our book, "Reflections: A Journey to God".  She is completing her interfaith ministerial requirements this summer via the Emerson Theological Institute.

Professionally and personally, Susan and I have experienced much adversity, ranging from medical conditions to financial, relationship, and emotional problems. Thought you might appreciate some of the following tips we have field-tested (smiles) to overcome all kinds of stressful and even painful situations in our lives:

*  Breathing deeply (check out the "relaxation response" online).
*  Venting painful emotions.
*   Replacing negative emotions with positive thoughts.
*  Developing a plan of positive action.
*  Releasing stress to the Divine within us and all around us (many ways to do this).

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Monday, March 12, 2018

The White Wolf



A short time ago, I had an interesting dream about a white wolf. I would like to share it with you.

In my dream, I suddenly found myself in a field at dusk.  I noticed in front of me, there was a long and old, wood and wire fence which extended across one side of the field. I also sensed the presence of some sort of danger.

I started walking towards the fence. From the corner of my eye, I noticed a blur of motion coming right at me. There appeared to be some kind of wolf-like creature kicking up a dust cloud, and traveling at  incredible speed.

At first, panic engulfed me as I ran faster towards the fence line. But, when the animal came closer, a comforting thought occurred to me: just be still. So, I stopped running, took a deep breath, and faced the creature... as it just ran past me.

I didn't waste any time lurking around or contemplating my good fortune. Immediately, I took off for the fence, jumped it, and breathed in a few more deep sighs of relief. Looking around, I noticed that parts of the fence looked weak and needed repair. I spent some time strengthening the fence posts and tightening the rusty, ranch wire. Then feeling safe and protected, I left the scene.

Soon afterwards, I returned to the fence line. In front of the fence, sat a lovely women who was petting a huge, white wolf. She motioned to me to come closer. She smiled and said, "Don't be afraid. Come pet this wolf with me."

And so I did, surrendering to this calling and a feeling of peace, knowing that all is well. 

I am sure there are many ways to interpret this dream. Clearly some Native American symbolism is present too. Here's my interpretation of it.

The danger I sensed in the "field" of my life was a premonition of something horrible that was about to happen. The voice I heard to "be still" might have been the presence of the Divine within me. That blur of motion with a wolf-like creature,  hinted of some kind of attack that was about to occur in my life. The fence line that I jumped over and strengthened, could represent my internal resources that I use to cope with problems.  Maybe the lovely lady was my guardian angel. The white wolf probably symbolized my connection to Spirit, beckoning me to surrender to the power of Love, which will always see me through any life challenge.

What do you think?


A short time after this dream, I did have a real life situation that deeply rocked my soul. My wife of 40 years, Susan, got pretty sick one night. She started complaining of an intense pain in her left arm and shoulder. Trying to help, I encouraged her to take some pain medications and use her heating pad. But, the pain grew in intensity. Moreover, her speech seemed slurred. She also complained of something being seriously wrong within her.


Getting alarmed now, I walked her to our bedroom, and assisted in putting her to bed; but her ability to move her legs and arms was becoming very weak.  While she was in bed, she could barely talk and had significant trouble moving any part of her body. At this point some panic set in for me; I called her sister for consultation, and we agreed to phone the ambulance. However, all through this ordeal, I kept "petting" that white wolf within me.

When I got to the emergency room to be with Susan, she had regained the ability to move her arms and legs; however, she still was unable talk. In addition, while I tried to comfort her, I recall she could only apply a very soft and weak pressure to my hand. 

The doctor and nurses were frantically doing all kinds of tests. Nothing shed any light on what was going on with Susan. In my mind's eye, I kept stroking the wolf and saying my prayers.

I remember silently praying powerful and positive words over and over: oneness and thank you. I kept affirming that we are one, dear Lord with Your source of absolute health and infinite life. Susan and all human beings are a divine expression of our Creator, always manifesting Light, Love, Peace, and Infinite Energy,  which radiates from our connection to Spirit. Then I just kept thanking God for this Truth, and the gentle presence of all that is Good.


Many times that night I prayed: We are One; thank You God for Your Grace and healing presence. Incredibly, around 2:00 a.m. all of Susan's faculties were restored. The doctor in the emergency room denied that she had suffered a stroke. He described her condition as a "medical anomaly". 

Later that week, with follow-up from Susan's primary care physician, we discovered that she probably had a small stroke called a TIA. This condition does not cause any lasting physical damage, and it doesn't show up on traditional medical tests. It's a warning sign of a larger stroke if Susan didn't change her lifestyle.

Happy to have her home, I gave thanks for my dream, and kept petting that white wolf within.

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